I know that Valentines Day is this Sunday but more important to me is the following Wednesday. It will be the day that Valarie and I have been married for twenty years. Wow! That may not mean a lot to you but for Val and I, that means the world. If you would have asked either of us fifteen or so years ago if our marriage would last, I bet both of us would have laughed pretty loud.

We have come a long way and only by the grace of God have we made it to the big twenty year mile stone. God wants this same thing for you in your marriage.

God's plan for us now is to grow old together and watch our children grow and mature and become spouses and parents themselves.

How have we done it?
* praying together
* patience when we thought we had none
* unconditional love
* selflessness
* talking about issues as soon as they come up

Do we still have it all together? No way! God is still forming us into the man and woman that He truly wants us to be. But we do know one thing now that we didn't know fifteen years ago. If God is not the center of your marriage, your marriage will be the center of chaos and undeniable anguish.